Perfectionists, research shows, can become easily discouraged by failing to meet impossibly high standards, making them reluctant to take on new challenges or even complete agreed-upon tasks. The insistence on dotting all the i’s can also breed inefficiency, causing delays, work overload and even poor results. Perfectionism can hurt health and re lationships, too. It is associated with anorexia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety, writer’s block, alcoholism and depression. Such problems may be prevalent: a 2007 study that evaluated more than 1,500 college students revealed that nearly one quarter of them suffered from an unhealthy form of perfectionism.  read full article

This is not to say that striving to perform your best is unhealthy. But it may be detrimental if it’s getting in the way of your actual ability to succeed.  If you are a Wesleyan student who feels you are suffering ill effects from your own perfectionism, the Office of Behavioral Health for Students can offer you free and confidential assistance. Call 860.685.2910 for an appointment.

WHEN:       Thursday, May 14, 2009
WHERE:      Usdan, Room 110
TIME:         10:00-11:30 a.m.

Beverages will be available.

From the New York Times…

In the quest for better health, many people turn to doctors, self-help books or herbal supplements. But they overlook a powerful weapon that could help them fight illness and depression, speed recovery, slow aging and prolong life: their friends.

Researchers are only now starting to pay attention to the importance of friendship and social networks in overall health. A 10-year Australian study found that older people with a large circle of friends were 22 percent less likely to die during the study period than those with fewer friends. A large 2007 study showed an increase of nearly 60 percent in the risk for obesity among people whose friends gained weight. And last year, Harvard researchers reported that strong social ties could promote brain health as we age.

“In general, the role of friendship in our lives isn’t terribly well appreciated,” said Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology at the University of North Carolina, Greensboro. “There is just scads of stuff on families and marriage, but very little on friendship. It baffles me. Friendship has a bigger impact on our psychological well-being than family relationships.”

read the full article…

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STUDENT-RUN
GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP
(Sponsored by the Office of Behavioral Health for Students)

MEETS:   Tuesdays
TIME:   8:00 p.m.
LOCATION:   Group Room #212
(2nd fl., Davison Health Center)

Intended to create a network of support for
those who have experienced the death of a loved one.  
Please feel free to come and leave when it’s convenient for you.  
If you have questions, please contact: Margo (917/691-7312).

Are your friends happy? What about their friends? These people, new research suggests, will have a profound impact on your own personal satisfaction.

Like an influenza outbreak, happiness - and misery too – spread through social networks, affecting people through three degrees of separation. For instance, a happy friend of a friend of a friend increases the chances of personal happiness by about 6%.

Compare that to research showing that a $5000 income bump ups the odds by just 2%, says James Fowler, a political scientist at the University of California, San Diego, who led the new study.

“Even people we don’t know and have never met have bigger effect on our mood than substantial increases in income,” he says.  [read full article...]

Do-it-all Beta lecture series chair Tim Devane ‘09 writes:

Tomorrow night at 8 pm we are hosting Charles Barber as a speaker. Mr. Barber is formerly a visiting writing professor at Wes as well as an author and lecturer on psychiatry at Yale.

He is also the author of Comfortably Numb: How Psychiatry is Medicating a Nation, a book that takes a serious, critical look at the volume of anti-depressant use and prescription on the United States.

Mr. Barber will speak at Beta at 8 pm on Monday Nov. 17 about his groundbreaking book and its relation to anti-depressant use on college campuses.

This is the last lecture in the Beta Fall Lecture Series.

Date: Monday, Nov. 17
Time: 8:00 PM
Place: Beta (corner of Church and High)

Mourning over a lost campaign resonates with Donna Brazile, a CNN contributor who worked on Al Gore’s campaign in 2000. In a column for CNN.com, she recalled feeling lost and disillusioned at first, and had no idea what to do with her life.

“It hurts like hell,” she wrote. “It is like death of someone close to you — the difference is no corpse or casket to help bring closure, just more election analysis and pundits spewing out what you did wrong.”

She advises staff members, volunteers and supporters of candidates who lost on Tuesday to let out their grief: “Grieve. Mourn. Let it out.”

To combat the letdown of the period after the election, Molitor advises people to put routine back into their lives. Political junkies who lost their sleeping and eating routines should get back on schedule, she said. They should also take part in community activities, such as book clubs or other interest groups.

Even supporters of winning and losing candidates may feel a little off for two weeks or more, she said.

For some, the excitement will continue for a couple of weeks, until the reality sets in that the candidates they elected won’t be able to do anything until January, said Jana N. Martin, a licensed psychologist in Long Beach, California.

Anyone who feels depressed, hopeless or powerless after the election should realize that they as individuals have the ultimate control over their everyday lives, she said.

“The president is not going to find you a job; the president is not the one who manages your individual budgets,” she said. “If people want changes, they can do that in their day-to-day lives. They don’t need a candidate to do that.”

Those who feel truly overwhelmed should see a psychologist who can help them think out loud, she said. (read full article here…)

Wesleyan Resources: Office of Behavioral Health for Students

Martha Tenney ‘09 writes:

We are starting a group for students with eating disorders or disordered eating, and their friends and allies. We hope to create a supportive and welcoming environment for anyone struggling with these issues at Wesleyan, which can sometimes be an alienating and hostile environment. We are in no way affiliated with OBHS, and we promise a safe and confidential space to discuss issues. If you have questions, or would like to come but can’t because the time is inconvenient, email mtenney@wes.

Date: Monday, Nov. 3
Time: 9:00 PM
Place: Usdan 108

MEETS: Tuesdays
TIME: 8:00 p.m.
LOCATION: Group Room #212
(2nd fl., Davison Health Center)

Intended to create a network of support for
those who have experienced the death of a loved one.
Please feel free to come and leave when it’s convenient for you.

If you have questions, please contact: Margo (917/691-7312).

Now the Mayo Clinic reminds us that asking for help by creating your own support system is key to your health, by sharing the story of East African distance runners. Lessons learned?

1. We need to take care of ourselves as did these runners.
2. If we are isolated, if we are marginalized, if we are without a support system, we are at a profound disadvantage dealing with life’s stresses.

Stress is probably the most common health complaint I hear about from students; it’s even worn as a badge of honor by some. But dealing with life’s stressors — which will never completely go away, just change as time passes – is a skill that is best learned now when you’re in a supportive environment like a college campus.

Very simply put, stress management is about consciously choosing how to respond to what is happening in your life, rather than letting your stressors take charge. And your support system — your friends, family, Peer Advisor, RA or House Manager, professors, other campus offices, or whoever helps you — will make all the difference in your health and well-being personally and academically.

Wesleyan Resources:  Stress Management